I am just irritated

Ok.
I read this blog Eyeonthediscoball.com. It is about a few women writing about their journey to independence from previous lives. I like it - but some guy completely ruined it for me. I just want to scream at him and I do not even have a friggin' clue who he is.

If I talked to this man in a bar - I have no doubt he would have had a drink poured over his head. I know I would do it - I did it once in college to a real ass of a man at a frat party - yet that is for another post at another time.

I do not even know where to start. He is trying to make himself out to be the victim. He was a great provider - a great husband - took care of his wife and kid - sacrificed everything for them - would not have sex with foreign women when they were brought to him as tokens of appreciation blah, blah, blah. See how I fit that last comment in there...yeah. He is a great guy.

He goes on to say he encouraged his wife to get advanced degrees even though she had a 2.0 GPA, he sacrificed and worked his ass off to give her brand new cars and pay for their kids college. He did this - he did that- it was all about him. What HE did for them.

Then he blames his wife for leaving. Really? You think she left because you were a nice boring husband and she needed excitement and sex outside the marriage. Newsflash buddy. She left you because you are a complete ass. I can tell - because your writing is so friggin egotistical, there is no way on the face of the planet you could possibly bear blame.

I am irritated.

Irritated because my sis dredged up another self centered creep. What the hell.

In the meantime I have a nice guy in mind for her - he is sittin in the friggin sandbox overseas - and he gets it. He understands how to be the best person he can be for himself - he gets it - and it translates, radiates to others. I know this because he made me want to be a better person when I was around him - he made me want to try my best and not give up and he did not have to do it by telling me how awesome he was.

Yet - he is there and she is here and he will always be somewhere she isn't so it doesn't make much sense for me to fantasize about them being a couple. Which totally irritates me even more.

I wish I could say "GOSH" like Napoleon Dynamite.

So - why, why, why does my sister find these guys? She attracts men that seem to want to save her. I know her as a strong woman in mind and spirit but I do not know her as a strong woman to have poured a beer over a guys head. I think she needs to get some balls and tell these asses of men they need to focus on themselves and leave her alone.

She needs to find someone like my Dan - who would go to the ends of the earth for her - without telling her he is. She needs to find a man that is confident in her independence, knowing she is bettering herself - which in turn betters the marriage. She needs to find a man that enjoys doing chores with her - cooking in the kitchen with her - going to church with her. She needs to find a man that is so focused on making himself better.

I think she needs to come visit me here and go for an early morning swim at the pool. She needs to wear goggles and enjoy the underwater sights.....yeah...and that is in and of itself another post...